The Books I Read The First Half Of 2015

          Here’s the list of books I read starting on January 1st, 2015. I decided not to rate them because if I didn’t think a book was 4 or 5 stars I would have put it down. My favorites were The Girl on the Train, Scary Close, The Fear Cure, And The Good News Is, and Deep Down Dark.  1. Speak by Nish Weiseth Speak, by popular blogger Nish Weiseth, is a...
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What I Said To The Friend Whose Marriage Was On The Rocks

A friend wrote to me the other day to say she and her husband are struggling in their marriage.   Here’s what I wrote back to her:   Hey (friend),   I was just about to sit down and write back and saw your smiley face.   Thanks for trusting me with what’s going on with you and (her husband).   The number one thing that helped me, when I was going through a...
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What is Self-Care?

A dozen years ago I read the book Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. I saw myself on every page. Since then, I’ve gone through a graduate program in counseling, and counseled clients for over a decade. I still find myself getting caught in codependent behaviors every so often, but nowadays I’m more likely to recognize it and change my thoughts and actions to healthier...
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A Candid Discussion About Sexual Abuse In Light Of The Duggar Story

In light of the Josh Duggar story I want to have a candid discussion about sexual abuse. I don’t know all the details of the case and the Duggar’s are not my focus here.   Childhood Sexual Abuse is epidemic. Dare I say ubiquitous? Statistics say one in three women, and one in six men, have been victimized before the age of 18. As a counselor, I hear lots of stories of sexual...
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Life Inside The Fishbowl

While I was swimming around in the ocean of my career as a counselor, author, and teacher I saw what looked like a cool bunch of fish.   It seemed like they were where the action was. I wasn’t looking to get in that cluster but somehow it happened.   At first it was exciting. I was privy to all the news and gossip.   I felt official.   But soon I recognized I was no...
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