Ten Ways to Respond When Someone Wounds You With Their Words

It was unexpected. Someone I most admired pulled out one of those little stiletto knives, thrust it into my gut, and twisted before I even knew what hit me. Breathing was difficult, I felt dizzy and sick. I felt like a failure. Felt bad to be in my own skin.   Ashamed.   Of course, it wasn’t a real knife, but the pain of it hurt no less than a friend unexpectedly sticking an...
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The Importance of Owning Your Pain

        In my capstone counseling course we had to read a book called The Inner Voice of Love. It’s a book written by Henri Nouwen and it was never intended to be published. It was a diary of sorts where he wrote out his pain and the words he felt God speaking to him. We were assigned various pages from the book and told to integrate them into our own...
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Rush of Heaven by Ema McKinley with Cheryl Ricker

    “Ema, give me your hand.”   These were the words Jesus spoke to Ema on Christmas Eve before He straightened her crooked foot, hand, neck, and spine, and restored her mobility. Easter weekend, eighteen years earlier, an ordinary workday turned into a nightmare when Ema McKinley passed out and was left hanging upside down in the storage room. Rather than improving, Ema’s...
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Maybe It’s You Who Has a Fear of Intimacy

A dozen years ago I was telling my counselor that my husband was afraid of deep emotional intimacy. Our relationship was good, including our sex life, but at times it was scary to have tender and personal conversations.   I used to be a Creative Memories consultant, and late one night after all my scrapbooking ladies left, I crawled into bed. I wasn’t sleepy, and John had a rare...
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Today is National Black Dog Day

A guest post by my friend Jan Dunlap…   Today is National Black Dog Day, and to celebrate, I’m giving our black lab mix Gracie a fresh bone from our local butcher. To be honest, I celebrate Gracie every day, because she helped me get my life back when I was unwittingly shutting myself away from life with an uncontrolled anxiety order.  Her ability to enjoy life – to be totally in...
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