Sun Shine Down by Gillian Marchenko – a book review

I get asked to read and review a lot of books. I don’t like every book I read, but usually I find something nice to say, even if it ends up not being a favorite.   This most recent book is not that way. I truly loved this book. Sun Shine Down is a short book, written very simply; I finished it in about two hours. Yet it changed me. I have a sad sweet ache in my heart as I write this...
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How To Find Your Calm After Being Triggered

I just had a yucky experience. I was exiting the freeway going about 60 miles per house, slowing to 45 on the exit ramp. A black sports car going much faster, maybe 70 or 80, descended on me. It felt like he was going to touch my bumper. I put my hand up signaling him to pull back and give me distance.   He came closer. He started to maneuver around me to the left but realized that would...
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Weekend of Rest

Summer is almost over. We spent the weekend in Grand Lake, CO celebrating my husband’s parents’ birthdays. We had a wonderful three days enjoying sunshine, food, and family. Here’s a little video I put together.     What was your favorite memory this summer? ———————– ...
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How I Found My True Self – A Mini Memoir

    Part 1 The False Self   I like me.     It wasn’t always this way. I was a people pleaser; a chameleon. I became who you wanted me to be.   I’d notice and meet your need. Never noticed my own. Didn’t know I had needs or that I should respond to them.   I worked and served and gave and rushed, and I hoped you’d like me because of all I...
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Sadness, Grief, Depression . . . What Is The Difference?

Sienna came to my office three months after her mom died. She wasn’t sure if she needed a counselor since grief is a normal part of life. I immediately sensed Sienna was experiencing more than grief. She was showing signs of depression and seemed stuck.   We spent a few months talking about her family. It was clear there were several painful pieces of her story that needed to be told and...
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Depression And The Reasons Why Robin Williams Did Not Have To Die

      Yesterday around 5 p.m. I turned on the TV. I heard Greta Van Susteren say, “Breaking . . . we are just now learning that actor Robin Williams is dead at the age of 63.”   Full story here   It surprised me, but then again, it didn’t. As a counselor, I’m used to being around people who are so depressed they could take their own...
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