A Stress-Free Thanksgiving

Thanks for coming here friend,   Just a reminder that Thanksgiving is about thanking God, and being with friends and family.   Here are my top three tips for a stress-free Thanksgiving.     1. Print out the FlyLady’s PDF. She shares traditional recipes and even gives you the recipes and day by day, hour by hour timeline. I used this every year.   2. Read Shauna...
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Scary Close by Donald Miller — order now they’ll send you the Blue Like Jazz audio book and Scary Close soundtrack

    I’m always talking about intimacy. Not sexual intimacy but emotional intimacy.   Here are a few posts I’ve writen:   *Maybe It’s You Who Has a Fear of Intimacy  *A Healthy Voyeurism   I even made the focus of my graduate school thesis about intimacy.   If you’ve read my book Renewed: Finding Your Inner Happy in an Overwhelmed World  you...
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Ten Ways to Respond When Someone Wounds You With Their Words

It was unexpected. Someone I most admired pulled out one of those little stiletto knives, thrust it into my gut, and twisted before I even knew what hit me. Breathing was difficult, I felt dizzy and sick. I felt like a failure. Felt bad to be in my own skin.   Ashamed.   Of course, it wasn’t a real knife, but the pain of it hurt no less than a friend unexpectedly sticking an...
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The Importance of Owning Your Pain

        In my capstone counseling course we had to read a book called The Inner Voice of Love. It’s a book written by Henri Nouwen and it was never intended to be published. It was a diary of sorts where he wrote out his pain and the words he felt God speaking to him. We were assigned various pages from the book and told to integrate them into our own...
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Maybe It’s You Who Has a Fear of Intimacy

A dozen years ago I was telling my counselor that my husband was afraid of deep emotional intimacy. Our relationship was good, including our sex life, but at times it was scary to have tender and personal conversations.   I used to be a Creative Memories consultant, and late one night after all my scrapbooking ladies left, I crawled into bed. I wasn’t sleepy, and John had a rare...
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A New Way To Consider Relationships With Messy Endings (Children of the Day by Beth Moore)

Today I started attending a Bible study at my church. It’s been ten years since I’ve been a part of a group study like this. It felt great to be back after so many years.   There was a day I would attend two to four Bible studies a week. That went on for the first dozen years after I committed my life to Christ. Then I went to grad school so I had to pour my time and energy into that...
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