The Perfect Mother’s Day Gift

  During times of stress, women release more stress chemicals and these hormones remain longer in a woman’s body than a man’s. Women need tools for minimizing the impact of daily stress as well as the impact of past trauma. They need tools for dealing with difficult people and situations. Without nurturing their own energy, passion, and health—and without setting...
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How To Behave In Your Child’s Custody Battle

As a counselor, always in training, I listen to a lot of experts. Whether it’s attending seminars, listening to podcasts of New Life , or watching Dr. Phil (or any number of other experts).   Sometimes people laugh when I mention Dr. Phil.   Yes, television is sensational, but he really is good at reading a situation and understanding what needs to happen. He spends weeks...
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How To Stop The Manipulators In Your Life

I just finished reading Who’s Pulling Your Strings by Dr. Harriet Braiker.   It’s an extremely helpful and practical book, filled with lots of examples and stories. It contains lots of step by step approaches for stopping the manipulators in your life. Here are some of the bullet points:   “Manipulation is different from—and should not be confused with—legitimate,...
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Joshie the Giraffe, the Ritz-Carlton, and the Pursuit of Excellence

I’ve always believed in giving 110%.   If I’m writing a blog post, I think about it for weeks and then devote pure quiet time to the writing process. I’ve been known to turn in guest posts a year ahead of time. (Granted, you’ll probably find a typo or two—I wish I had that perfect editor inside my brain.)   If it comes to my clients, I always go a few minutes past the...
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Tucker Is Graduating From College

  In six weeks my boy will be graduating from the University of Colorado (Boulder).   It’s a time of sadness as I look at the milestones and the years we’ve left behind, and it’s a time of great joy!   I’ve found that it’s important to feel all these painful and wonderful emotions. One of the ways I do this is to make little music videos. I laugh and...
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The Healthiest Way to Parent

I’ve been listening to Mary Pipher’s book Reviving Ophelia for the third time.   The book deals with issues that face adolescent girls.  Pipher, a clinical psychologist, uses her experience as a therapist to paint a picture of how the culture—the family and the bigger culture—helps and harms girls.   Today on my walk, she talked about the two broad dimensions in which...
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