Ten Ways to Respond When Someone Wounds You With Their Words

It was unexpected. Someone I most admired pulled out one of those little stiletto knives, thrust it into my gut, and twisted before I even knew what hit me. Breathing was difficult, I felt dizzy and sick. I felt like a failure. Felt bad to be in my own skin.   Ashamed.   Of course, it wasn’t a real knife, but the pain of it hurt no less than a friend unexpectedly sticking an...
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The Importance of Owning Your Pain

        In my capstone counseling course we had to read a book called The Inner Voice of Love. It’s a book written by Henri Nouwen and it was never intended to be published. It was a diary of sorts where he wrote out his pain and the words he felt God speaking to him. We were assigned various pages from the book and told to integrate them into our own...
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Maybe It’s You Who Has a Fear of Intimacy

A dozen years ago I was telling my counselor that my husband was afraid of deep emotional intimacy. Our relationship was good, including our sex life, but at times it was scary to have tender and personal conversations.   I used to be a Creative Memories consultant, and late one night after all my scrapbooking ladies left, I crawled into bed. I wasn’t sleepy, and John had a rare...
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A New Way To Consider Relationships With Messy Endings (Children of the Day by Beth Moore)

Today I started attending a Bible study at my church. It’s been ten years since I’ve been a part of a group study like this. It felt great to be back after so many years.   There was a day I would attend two to four Bible studies a week. That went on for the first dozen years after I committed my life to Christ. Then I went to grad school so I had to pour my time and energy into that...
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Chihuly Exhibit at Denver Botanic Gardens

  Last night my husband and I enjoyed a visit to Denver Botanic Gardens to see the Chihuly Exhibit. It was a cool wet night. We managed to avoid the crowds and capture some beautiful photographs.   After that we had a delicious meal at ChoLon Modern Asian Bistro on the 16th street mall. It was a perfect date.   Beauty, time with my husband, good food.   Self...
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How To Set Limits With A Person Who Is Gamey, Manipulative, Or Has Borderline Personality Disorder.

All my life I’ve been a compassionate and empathetic person. I was the one who found the down and outer, befriended them, and tried to incorporate them into my group of friends.   You wouldn’t think that was a bad thing, but if you have a similar emotional makeup, you know how easy it is to get sucked into the lives of others.   This is not always healthy.     My biggest...
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